Being good friends before dating
It’s because I’m waiting to date until I can marry, and I’m not ready yet.I want to do as much as I can to avoid heartbreak, painful consequences, and naïve mistakes.Wait to date until he brings you a person who will aid your sanctification and chase Christlikeness with you.Wait to date until you’re satisfied in Christ, when you’re free from expectation and pressure, when you’re supported by a gospel community, and when you’re committed to a long-term, lasting relationship.If you’re doubting that, now is not the time to tempt your heart toward idolatry.Wait to date until you can say with surety that Christ alone is the source of your validation.These relationships distort and demean the sacredly beautiful, God-given vision of romance.
Dating then wouldn’t have been in submission to God.It would have been outright, self-focused rebellion. We submit our desires, temptations, timing, preferences, and bodies to Christ, and sacrifice ourselves for the holiness and good of another person.So wait to date until you can joyfully submit every part of your relationship to God’s loving authority.As I think about dating for the right reasons, in the right season, for the glory of God, I’ve considered five questions to ask myself before I start dating — five indicators that I’m ready (or not) to date. Here is someone who is living, breathing, chocolate-and-flower-giving proof that you’re interesting and attractive. But if dating is of your validation, it indicates soul-damaging idolatry.A boyfriend or girlfriend won’t complete you, no matter how much culture tries to convince you otherwise.